The Difference Between True Love and Attachment
By: Team Ifairer | Posted: 29-09-2023
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Love and attachment: two words that are frequently used together and
sometimes even interchangeably. But is there a difference between these
two! And if the love is real and worth fighting for, how do we release
attachment and create healthy and liberated loving relationships. Here
are some ways to differentiate between love and attachment.
Love is selfless, attachment is self-centered
When
you are in love, you focus on making the other person happy. You are
always thinking of ways to make sure that your partner feels loved and
fulfilled. You don't emotionally blackmail your partner, try to
manipulate them, or seek to dominate the relationship. When you are
merely attached to someone, you are focused upon the ways in which they
can make you happy. You become heavily dependent upon your partner and
may even try to control him or her to avoid abandonment.
There is no insecurity in love
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him/her to see if he/she replies back immediately. If your partner
fails to get back immediately or if you feel insecure, you may be more
into the attachment phase than love. In true love, there is no room for
any insecurity.
In love you will value the other person, In attachment you are addicted to the other person's company
In
love, you would value the other person more than yourself, whereas in
the attachment phase, you are just addicted to the other person's
company. In this way, there can be minor differences caused between true
love and a relationship that is purely based on emotional attachment.