HOW TO CALM YOUR ATTACHMENT ANXIETY

Our attachment anxiety feels in the moment like the most important thing in the world! because according to our bodies…. it is! Our attachment system is formed to keep us safe. It keeps us close to our earliest attachment figure by constantly scanning for signs of abandonment, disconnect, or danger. So when our lover feels distant or in danger of leaving us, we are right back in that primal panic feel like small children who are truly IN DANGER if they lose their protective figure who keeps them safe.

In adulthood, we view our romantic attachment figures the same way! So when they are distant, seem disinterested, or otherwise threaten to sever that valuable connection, we panic. Tell yourself you are safe. Do things that make you FEEL safe. 


IDENTIFY YOUR TRUE FEELING 
You are not just angry that they are not responding you are probably feeling afraid or abandoned or unlovable! Get to the root of the REAL feeling beneath the anxiety.

WHAT IS THE WORST-CASE SCENARIO?
Find the worst-case scenario and turn it around. What would your life REALLY look like without them? What did your life look like BEFORE them?

HOW COULD YOU BE WRONG?
Our thoughts are not always telling us reality. Your beloved might actually just be busy or preoccupied. There's a chance you're jumping to an unfair conclusion.

FIND SOMETHING THAT YOU LOVE TO DO
If you find yourself ruminating on their absence or lack of communication, find a way to make your life full and happy. Friends, hobbies, exercise, and self-care can help the waiting.