5 Things Never to Say to Singles If you’d get out there, you’d find someone

"This rubs me the wrong way because you have no idea what I've tried or how aggressive or passive I might be," says Grace. "Maybe I'm shy and it isn’t my personality to be the pursuer. Or maybe my workplace doesn’t put me in contact with many other singles." Still, there's no harm in seeing if she’s open to meeting someone you know. "Just don’t spring it on her," says Dr. Kirschner. "Say something like, ‘So-and-so is coming to the party on Sunday and he's funny and nice. You might enjoy talking to him." And leave it at that.